Mental health conditions affect a significant portion of the population—globally, roughly 1 in 8 people live with a mental disorder. In many countries, over 1 in 5 adults experience some form of mental illness each year.
Personal support from caring people like you can make a real difference in helping your loved one feel less isolated and more understood.
The Essentials: Do’s & Don’ts at a Glance
| Do | Why It Helps | Don’t |
|---|---|---|
| Listen actively and validate feelings (“I’m here. That sounds really hard.”) | Reduces isolation; builds trust | Minimize (“It’s just a phase”) or rush to fix |
| Use person-first, non-stigmatizing language (e.g., “person with depression”) | Cuts stigma; shows respect | Label (“schizophrenic,” “addict”) or use harmful terms |
| Check on safety and encourage professional help | Early support prevents crises | Ignore warning signs or promise secrecy |
| Offer practical help (meals, rides, reminders) | Relieves everyday stress that can worsen symptoms | Take over everything or strip independence |
| Set boundaries and practice self-care | Prevents burnout; ensures long-term support | Neglect your needs or enable unhealthy behaviors |
| Know crisis options (hotlines, local services) | Ensures prompt, appropriate help | Handle crises alone without planning |
How to Put the Do’s Into Action
1) Start the Conversation with Sensitivity
Choose a calm setting and ask gentle, open-ended questions like, “Would talking help right now?” Listen more than you speak. Reflect what they say, rather than diagnosing or dismissing.
2) Encourage Care—Without Pressuring
Offer to help them research therapists, make appointment calls, or accompany them to visits. You might also share peer or family support programs that can provide guidance and understanding.
3) Plan for High-Stress Moments
Ask, “What helps when things get worse? Who should we call?” Make a simple safety plan with phone numbers or trusted contacts ready in case things escalate.
4) Choose Language Carefully
Use respectful, person-first language: “person living with anxiety” instead of “anxious person.” Replace judgmental questions like, “What’s wrong with you?” with empathetic alternatives such as, “What’s happening for you right now?”
5) Preserve Your Well-Being
Supporting someone with mental health challenges is emotionally demanding. Set healthy boundaries, seek your own support, and take breaks. Peer educator programs and family support groups can help you stay resilient.
Supporting someone with a mental health condition isn’t about fixing them—it’s about being present, empathetic, and reliable.
Byperson-first language without judgment, using person-first language, encouraging professional care, and maintaining healthy boundaries, you play a vital role in their well-being.
Remember, taking care of yourself means you’ll be there for the long run—and that’s one of the greatest gifts you can offer.
FAQs
How do I know when it’s time to suggest professional help?
If your loved one’s symptoms significantly disrupt sleep, work, school, or relationships, or if there’s any sign of self-harm or suicidal thoughts, encourage them to reach out to a mental health professional and use crisis resources if needed.
What if my loved one resists help?
Stay supportive without forcing. Continue offering resources, focus on safety, and agree on small steps. Keep conversations open and revisit the topic gently later.
What should I say during a crisis?
Remain calm and direct: “I’m glad you trusted me. Your life is important. Let’s get help right now.” Then reach out to emergency services or a trusted crisis helpline.